by: Angie Knutson, MyFourMonkeys.com
On Monday, I discussed some “Do’s” for learning and teaching with your children — positive reinforcement, flexibility and creativity. Today, let’s cover comparing, frustration and roadblocks — definite “Don’ts”.
Don’t compare your children to one another.
Comparing your child to other children, even their own siblings, is not only unfair but damaging to your child/parent relationship. Like I mentioned in Monday’s blog post, my oldest child was reading by the time she turned four, while my youngest daughter was still struggling with learning her alphabet at that age. Every child is different, and learns at different paces and in different ways. When it comes to our own children, we tend to forget from time to time, especially when it comes to schoolwork and learning.
Don’t get frustrated and stressed.
When you start to get frustrated, and are having visions of your child being sixteen and not knowing what a circle is, just take a deep breath. All will be okay in the world. 🙂 Frustration can cause you to be less effective as a teacher and your children can pick up on it, too. It is discouraging to you both and can hinder the learning process. Sometimes our children don’t learn certain skills when we think they should or expect them to but they will learn… we just need to be patient parents!
Don’t hesitate to take a break.
Hitting a learning roadblock with your child’s progress? Perhaps it’s time to take a break. Depending on the age of your child and the skill you are trying to teach them, your break could last a week or as long as six months. When one of my daughters was having trouble with learning her alphabet, I decided we should take a six month break and then we would try again. Within three months, she had learned all her letters confidently, and was doing some beginning reading. I think we just both needed to step back for a bit and regroup. Sometimes, that’s all it takes to jump-start the learning.
Have you experienced roadblocks and frustrations? How have you dealt with them?
Angie Knutson is the mom behind My Four Monkeys (dad is her husband, Jeremy, both pictured at left). My Four Monkeys is a product review site for moms and dads, new parents, veteran parents, homeschooling families, Stay-at-home moms and dads, working moms and dads, families with pets, parents to one, parents to more, any and all. The Knutson’s have four fabulous kiddos — two boys, two girls all ranging in age from two years old to 10. Connect with Angie on Twitter, Facebook and Pinterest.
This is part two of the two-part blog series: “When learning becomes a battle of the wills…”